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I’ve just recently discovered that my boyfriend is active in chats and sex forums! I can understand the fact that he was looking for a companion when he was single but not when we’re together now. Out of curiousity, I logged into his emails and found out he’s been constantly asking girls for their charges, age, height and weight. When I asked him about it, he said that he’s just curious and didn’t meet up with any of the girls. I have no proof that he’s actually met them but I’m thoroughly disappointed, confused and sad.

This isn’t an easy situation to be in, and I got Faith Bleasdale, our resident expert in CLEO to help give you some answers.

“Whether he has met up with anyone is not the point here. If it was merely male curiosity then maybe asking one or two would be sort of understandable but this isn't the case. He has a girlfriend who he should respect and love and that means not surfing the net for other girls. His behaviour, as far as I am concerned, is unforgiveable and his excuses weak.

The problem is that the trust has gone and I am not sure how you are going to get it back. You don't want to spend the rest of your life checking his emails. I think you should tell him that if he was just curious then he should have discussed it with you, honestly if it was that innocent then why not? But he obviously has a need to shop for cheap girls and you are not in any way shape or form a cheap girl and therefore will not be putting up with such behaviour.

Just because he didn't meet them doesn't excuse his behaviour or reassure you that he won't in future. Kick him into reality and tell him either to get help or get out.”