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Single? So what? 2010.06.28 23:32:31 |
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Men are more open to dating women who earn more than them, have a higher education level and who are taller than them. But women are far less willing to bridge such gaps. – The Straits Times, June 24, 2010 OK. I’ve been wanting to write about this “unwillingness” in women to “bridge such gaps” for a very long time. Last week, over the radio, Class 95 Love Songs’ host Yasmin also talked about this. And after quoting the statistics, she made a comment somewhere along the lines of, “So you know, there are a lot of single people out there …” You know, it’s one thing to have a lot of single people out there and quite another to have quality single people who are available? In Singapore, the problem single women are facing right now is that there is a lack of men who are compatible with us. And before you go, “You’re such a snob,” wait. What’s wrong with women wanting to date a man who is more educated, who earns more and who is taller (and stronger) than we are? It’s evolution. The only reason why human beings pair off was because back in pre-historic times, the solo wanderers were most vulnerable to attacks by wild animals and, men who were strong and smart were the ones best able to protect their wives and families. I’ve been called many things by my guy friends – “Elitist”, “snobbish”, “materialistic”, “unrealistic” and “unreasonable” – for wanting to date men who are (or, at least want to be ) more successful than me. In the months following my breakup with the Ex, my best friend, a guy, suggested that I date a mutual friend of ours, whom we shall call T. T, while nice, did not meet any of my criteria (yes, I have a list, so what?). He was, by no means, an eye candy, he was overweight with a bad case of acne, he had barely scraped through university and was stuck in a dead-end job that didn’t seem to be particularly rewarding. “No,” I said. “T’s not my type.” “Why?” my friend shot back. “He’s quite a decent guy. What do you have against nice guys?” “Look,” I said, “if you were single, I wouldn’t recommend you a girl who’s not attractive and not particularly smart. You are my best friend. Shouldn’t you want the best for me?” His silence could only mean I was right. You see, people tend to think single women should settle. That we’ve reached the stage where it’s “beggars can’t be choosers”. Those who say that single women in Singapore are stuck-up for not wanting to date the country’s large number of single men are failing to see that it’s because the two groups are just very different people. I apologise if I sound rude but how do you expect a woman who’s a high-level executive to click with a man who’s a secondary school graduate. I’m not discounting the fact that a man cannot succeed without a degree BUT those are really the exceptions. And haven’t statistics already proved that a marriage has a higher chance of working out when the husband is older, smarter and more successful than the wife? Even if a woman is willing to marry “down”, what of all the ego-issues? I’m quite certain no man wants to hear his wife tell him, “I earn more than you and I pay the mortgage, so go change the diaper.” It’s not that I desire to be subjugated by an alpha-male, it’s not that I want to be dominated by my husband. For a relationship to work, there must be mutual respect. I want to be with someone I can respect, that I can learn something from, that, in times of trouble, I can look to for support and help. And for me, being with a man who’s less ambitious and less go-getting than me just doesn’t cut it. |
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