I’ll always remember what Editor Kamei said at last year’s party, “If there’s one thing we do best, it’s that CLEO knows how to throw a party.” That can’t be more true – how else do you fill a club with 1300 screaming girls (and guys)? Today, I’ll be giving you a special peek into what went down into putting this event together.
With the CLEO 50 Most Eligible Bachelors being one of our signature events, planning and rehearsing for the finals party started months ahead.
Rehearse, Rehearse and… rehearse!
This year, we put together a couple of performances, including an acoustic band performance, band performance and of course, the strip tease. We can’t be any more thankful to all the bachelors for taking time off their busy schedules for rehearsals every week leading up to the finals party. Here are some photos taken during their rehearsals…
If you enjoyed the band’s awesome performance that night, what you saw was the result of weeks and weeks of practice!
The acoustic band put up an amazing mash up consisting of songs from the Top 40s!
How do you get five boys to strip? By locking them up in a pink room of course! Here’s four of the striptease boys fooling around at Bobbi’s Pole Studio… Sigh, boys.
To prepare for the strip tease, the boys started working out day in and day out... So much so that one of them got so ripped, he ripped his shirt.
For fear of my own safety, I won’t be revealing who this bachelor is… Heh.
With the weeks of planning and rehearsing, they were ready to bring the house down.
We started our day at Zouk as early as 9am on March 15.
An empty zouk... but not for long.
Soon, the boys started streaming in one by one to get their hair and make up done – all so they could look their best for you girls.
Willis and Derrick letting the makeup artists do their thing.
Wren says hi!
Before we knew it, it was time for the big show. While you were enjoying the fabulous performance put up by the boys, here’s are some never seen before photos of what went down backstage.
This is what happens when you put a big group of boys in a small enclosed area – they talk and talk and talk… and talk.
And then there’s one of the striptease boys Dickson who’s too busy doing some last minute pumping.
But, there’s always time for photos-taking!
All ready for you girls.
How could I miss out on a photo with them? ;)
It was a great night with all of you and we hope you had a blast!
The winners’ shoot
If you think this was over, not yet –next day, the winners had to wake up bright and early for their shoot. Here’s a peek at the winners!
Can’t get enough of the boys? Want more awesome photos of the boys on stage? Then you will have to grab a copy of the May issue of CLEO, out now on newsstands for our exclusive interview with the winners of the CLEO 50 Most Eligible Bachelors 2013. See you next year!
The March issue is out and I’m getting really excited because it’s one of my favourite issue ever! Why? Because in this issue, we unveil the 50 hotties for The CLEO 50 Most Eligible Bachelors. And what makes this year even more special and exciting is that it’s the 18th anniversary of CLEO 50 Most Eligible Bachelors.
Before I joined CLEO, I was always curious about the event. After all, where on earth do you even go about finding 50 hot, eligible and absolutely charming men? Well, this is my second year working on the event and I have to say that it wasn’t easy at all, but seeing the final spread was well worth all the hard work the team put in.
We started the hunt for these 50 eligible bachelors as early as in September 2012. In fact, this year, we called up and met a total of 243 guys before narrowing it to the final 50.
The final 50 are a great mix – if I may say so myself. Some of them are entrepreneurs, some are sportsmen, some are corporate yuppies and some are actors and models. But they all share one thing in common – they are fun peeps who would love to meet you! So if you are still undecided on who to cast your votes for, why not head down to Somerset313 this Saturday at 1pm and meet the boys in the flesh? Besides having a chance to get to know them better, you will also score tickets to the finals party on March 15. This year’s party is set to be bigger, better and hotter, and I hope you girls are as excited as I am. See you there!
finally the long weekend! Rather than spending weekends doing the usual things
(movies, dinners, gatherings etc), this weekend, I will be heading down to ION
to catch the CapitaLand-National Geographic Channel “Building People” photography
competition sees photography enthusiasts from all over the world capture
moments of interaction between people and CapitaLand properties in Singapore and
3rd prize winning entry and Best CapitaMall Photo
2nd Prize winning entry
This year, there were more than 2000 entries from Asia Pacific
countries! I can only imagine it must have been hard trying to decide on one
winner among so many entries submitted.
But not to worry, Annie Griffiths,
renowned National Geographic photographer, used her years of experience and
expertise and picked Teo Kiat Choon from Singapore as the first prize
winner. The talented photographer manage to capture a busy stream of people flowing in and out of Raffles City Singapore, except for a trishaw driver in the foreground. A perfect moment captured.
If you are excited to take a look at his winning shot, head down to ION Station, Basement 4 from August 17 to
21, 2012. Apart of the winning entries, there will also be more than 200
selected entries at the exhibition. Definitely an event not to be missed for
Singapore Toy, Games and Comic Convention (STGCC) 2012
Also, this coming September,
the Singapore Toy, Games and Comic Convention (STGCC) 2012 will be taking place
at Marina Bay Sands. So if you are wondering where you can surprise your boyfriend
for a date – this is the perfect opportunity.
Apart from an exciting line-up of
renown illustrators, toy designers and Japanese pop culture personalities, exclusive
figurines and collectibles from The Dark Knight, Captain America: The First
Avenger and Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides. will also
be made available for sale. In fact, fans will also have the rare opportunity to meet the team of talented sculptors behind these masterpiece at the event! I'm actually pretty excited to meet Sculptor Kojun, whose works include the greatly sought-after DX Batman/ Bruce Wayne from The Dark Knight Rises and Nick Fury and Thor from The Avengers. Keeping my fingers crossed that I can get an autograph! Even if you're not a fan, here’s your chance to score some brownie points
with the boy so be sure to save the date!
Singapore Toy, Games and Comic Convention (STGCC) 2012 will take place from September 1 and 2 at Marina Bay Sands. For more
information, log on to www.singaporetgcc.com.
Over the last few years, I realise I tend to look
back upon the past more frequently than ever. I think it’s because I miss the
days when life was carefree and I had more time to enjoy the simple things in
Recently, my dad randomly asked if I remember the first movie he brought me to.
Of course I do! I remember I was so excited when he told me he was bringing me
to the cinema to watch Casper
the friendly ghost. To me, it was a big deal! It was my first time to the
cinema and I thought it was amazing to be able to watch cartoon on such a big
screen and over a packet of kacang puteh. These days, many of these old cinemas
have been refurbished with modern facilities and the technology’s so advanced
that we won’t settle for anything less that IMAX, 3D or Gold Class. But truth
be told, even though all these facilities didn’t exist when I caught my first
movie, I still went home feeling extremely satisfied and happy. Today, this
remains as one of the fondest memories that I share with my dad.
Also, back at the neighbourhood where I used to stay,
there were provision shops under the HDB blocks and every day, it was a treat
to be able to buy a candy or a cold drink while my mother had random
conversations with the aunty who owns the shop. Sometimes, the neighbours
would also gather around the void deck during the evening after dinner. These
days, there are lesser and lesser provision shops. We get our groceries from
NTUC and modern convenient stores such as 7-eleven. Sure, it’s more comfortable
shopping at these places but gone are the friendly and daily chatters we used
to share with the store owners and neighbours.
One of my favourite childhood activities was heading
to the playground. Back then, playgrounds meant see-saw, swings and sand. I
would bring my toy sand digger and make sand castles, sit on the swing for
hours on end, play hide and seek with the neighbours until my mum had to drag
me home. These days, playgrounds with sand are rare and few and I think kids
prefer playing with their iPhones and computers these days than get dirty.
These memories mean a lot to me because it reminds me
of why I call this place home. The sad thing is, much of my childhood have
become merely memories. Most of the places I grew up at are either gone or
refurbished beyond recognition. Sometimes, I fear that I will forget these warm
moments in life as I grow older. Thankfully, while I was visiting the places
for our Smart Report in the August issue, many of these happy memories came
flooding back. Armed with nothing but a camera and a list of places to explore,
it was a joy just reminiscing the good old days and learning more about the
country I grew up in. So if you haven’t made plans for the weekend, why not
take a walk down memory lane? We have put together a list of 47 places that are
familiar but might-soon-to-be-gone (on page 121 of CLEO August issue). You will
be surprise at how much fun you can have just thinking about the good old days.
We live in a day and age where we use emails and whatsapp
more than we speak to people face to face. I am no exception – If I can avoid
calling someone, I will. And I think the problem that arise when we do these
long enough, we forget how to talk to people and in time, we lose the ability
to get to know someone better and on a deeper level.
Recently, I was attending a friend’s birthday and I met this
really cute looking guy. We started chatting but as the conversation went on,
the silence got louder and things got more awkward as I realise that we have both
ran out of things to say. This is pretty unlike me since my friends all know me
as someone who’s able to make random talks with just about anyone on planet
earth. And well, the thing about me is, I have very short attention span. So
when the conversation was starting to run dry between Mr Cute Guy and me, I got
really bored and was just trying to think of the fastest exit strategy. I kept thinking what went wrong with the conversation until I read Instant Connection on page 114 of the August issue of CLEO, I learnt
that it’s not that we have nothing to say to each other but more of we simply
didn’t know the right ways to go about breaking the ice and striking a
conversation. For one, instead of just talking about ourselves, we could have
taken more initiatives to ask questions about the other party. Now, I can’t
wait to try the tips given with the next new friend I meet!
For people who know me, I don’t watch a lot of television (I hope my street cred didn’t just dropped a notch!). But don’t get me wrong. I love watching Gossip Girls and I do enjoy Keeping Up with the Kardashians but recently, I tend to take most of my entertainment to the internet or more specifically,Youtube, simply because I hate channel surfing just to find something I enjoy watching. And I have to admit that I spend an unhealthy amount of time just watching the channels of my favourite Youtube artistes.
Here’re some of my favourites videos:
J Rice – Fight (A song he composed - Really talented guy!)
Boyce Avenue – Yellow
Jayesslee – Price Tag
I think Youtube is great because it provides a platform for people like me who enjoys a wider range of entertainment – be it mainstream acts or indie talents. More importantly, it provides opportunities for a nobody to become a somebody, as long as they have what it takes! If you are wondering why I’m saying this, flip to 118 of the April issue of CLEO where we investigate the rise of Youtube celebrities and why it's great that anyone can become famous. Plus, we tell you who are the up and coming sensations to look out for in 2012.
And in case you haven’t heard, a Youtube concert is coming to Singapore! It will feature some of the biggest Youtube acts such as Jason Chen, Tiffany Alvord and Joseph Vincent who each have more than 200000 subscribers to their Youtube channels.
The concert takes place on May 5, 2012 at The Coliseum Resorts World Sentosa from 7pm to 10pm.
Tickets go to sale this Friday at www.sistic.com, so act fast!
I’m a great
fan of live music. If I could, I would attend all the concerts by my favourite
bands and artistes! There’s just something really different about a live
concert compared to rocking to music in a club or to your mp3. I love singing
along during a live concert and a great crowd usually makes it so much more fun
caught wind of not one, but two brand new yet really cool band that will be
holding a concert in town!
chefs in Singapore will be ditching their chef jackets and knives, and leaving
the comfort of the kitchens, to take on the drums, guitars and microphones to
perform rock numbers from U2, White Strips, Lenny Kravitz, Hoobastank, Green
Day just to name a few! Seriously, this whole idea of chefs ditching their
knives and rocking it out is just too cute and amusing!
The six chefs will form two bands.
The Munchies, fronted by Christian Bruhns, Executive Chef of St Regis
Singapore, will be joined by joined by Dan Seagall,
Executive Chef of KU DE TA Singapore and Chef Pang Kok Keong, Chef and Owner of
the Sugar Daddy Group.
Personally, I’m a fan
of Chef Pang’s delightful pastries and I’m still really amused at the thought
of him playing the drums instead of making drool worthy pastries in the
The other band – call Burnt Sauce –
is led by Sandro Falbo, the Executive Chef of Hilton Singapore. He
will be joined by joined by Reynaldo Arriola, Sous Chef of The Halia Singapore
and Christopher Smith, Executive Sous Chef of the Marriot Hotel Singapore.
If you are
wondering what this is all about. Not to worry, these chefs aren’t doing a
permanent job switch! It’s all for a good cause. The concert will raise funds
for The Business Times Budding Artists Fund, a charity organisation which
supports children from disadvantaged backgrounds in their pursuit of theatre,
music and the arts.
Most of the
chefs were blessed to have discovered their passion in culinary at a young age.
But there are many others who aren’t as fortunate. These chefs are lending
their support to the event in hope to encourage and aid these children in
following their interest in the arts.
really awesome right? I’m sure it’ll be! I’ll be there and I hope to see you
P.S: There's booze by the way.
A collaboration between FIJI Water, Thunder Rock School and Hard Rock
Cafe, FIJI Water Rockstar Chefs Charity
Concert 2012 will take place at Hard Rock Cafe, Resorts World Sentosa on
March 14, 2012.
If like me,
you’re a huge fan of Hong Kong movies, don't miss CLEO’s interview with heartthrob Daniel Wu on his upcoming romantic
comedy Don’t go breaking my heart.
What’s your character like in “Don’t go breaking my heart”?
I play Kevin
Fong, a failing architect who fell in love with Zixin (played by Guao Yuan
Yuan), who was in love with Sean Cheung (played by Louis Koo). This story
revolves around the love triangle.
You play a hopeless romantic in the movie. What are
your beliefs about love in reality?
I’m a simple
person and I tend not to spend time doing something fancy. That is why I complement
my wife Lisa so well, because she does not need me to do fancy things. She
knows that I concentrate a lot on my work so sometimes, I can’t take care of
her that much. After I’m done with my work, I just need to give her a call. She
has been very understanding so I am lucky to have her as my wife. I love her
You have starred in many movies prior to this, what would
you say is the biggest challenge in filming “Don’t go breaking my heart”?
challenging part of this movie is I have to imitate a frog’s voice to sing the
song ‘I do” for Yuan Yuan. It was very tough. I took more than a dozen takes to
finish the scene. Before shooting, I had to sing it out loud to the director
many times to get used to it. I had to practice lowering down my voice and
making it sound like a frog’s voice. Finally, I chose to have some off-pitch
effect and that was the most difficult part for me. After the shooting of the
scene, I lost my voice for two days.
How was it like working with Gao Yuan Yuan and Louis
first time working with Yuan Yuan and I am very happy about it. She is a very
hard working and serious actress. I have worked with Louis Khoo many times, but
many of the movies in which we worked together were police-villain or action
movies. We always had to compete with each other’s intelligence and physical
ability. Don’t go breaking my heart is the first romance movie that we
work together - we compete for love, so it is very fresh to me.
Don’t Go Breaking My Heart premieres exclusively 22nd
January on Celestial Movies, Starhub Channel 868 and SingTel Mio TV Channel 52.
P.S: Want to win a 3D2N trip to Hong Kong?
Don’ miss out on
this contest online contest that’s taking place! It’s really simple – all you
need to do is answer and provide a short elaboration for one out of the two
questions displayed on the website.
Besides a 3D2N getaway to Hong Kong, you could also stand a chance to win other attractive prizes. All entries have to be submitted online by
14th February 2012.
spent all of my Christmas in Singapore
since young so I have always wanted to know how it feels like to have a
beautiful white Christmas.
are one of those lucky ones that’s going to be travelling abroad this yuletide
season, it’s almost impossible to see snow in Singapore. Like you, that’s what I
thought too – but 313@somerset has made my dream come true by replicating a
winter landscape in the form of a snow dome complete with real snow at minus
General Manager of Lend Lease Retail Ptd Ltd shares with us more about this
How is the snow created?
We use cold
water, which undergoes some refrigeration, before it is being processed out as
How does one gain entry into the
$200 spent in a single day at 313@somerset entitles the shopper to one free
pass into the dome. $400 spent in a single day will gain two passes etc.
Children under 12 years old can enter for free with an adult with a valid pass.
Each shopper is limited to a maximum of five passes per day.
How long can one be in the dome?
stay up to five minutes, depending on the queue situation.
What can one do in the dome?
get to experience true winter and also to take some photos.
Dome will be available till December 24, 2011, so make your way down to
always seem glamorous and happy but some of them haven’t always cruised through
life smoothly. Here are some lessons to take away from these two celebs who found
the courage to move on from their abusive past.
Work on what’s important to you
remember Chris Brown and Rihanna’s high profile relationship slightly more than
two years ago. Everyone saw them as the golden couple – until Chris Brown
decided to lay his hands on her.
It would be
perfectly understandable if Rihanna continue hating this man forever but fast
forward to two years later, she graciously said in an interview that she has
forgiven the man. "I really like the music he's putting out. I'm a fan of
his stuff. I've always been a fan,” Rihanna said.
I had some resentment toward him for a while, for obvious reasons. But I've put
that behind me." She went on to explain that hating was "taking up
too much" of her time. Perhaps this explains why Rihanna’s career has been
getting stronger and stronger!
Focus on something more meaningful
hasn’t always been easy for Christina Aguilera. She went through a difficult
childhood witness a lot of pushing, fighting and quarrelling in her family. For
a child, that could possibly be the worst feeling knowing that you aren’t even
safe in a place you call home.
interview, she said, “Growing up I did not feel safe. Feeling powerless is the
worst feeling in the world. I turned to singing as an outlet. The pain at home
is where my love for music came from."
openly spoke of her abusive father on numerous occasions, and her experience
even went on to become inspiration of her songs such as I’m OK and Oh mother.
"It's therapeutic for me to talk about it. It gives me a reason to
understand why I went through what I did."
More importantly, not only
through music, Christina focused much of her career on philanthropy work such
as human rights, domestic abuse and she is also an UN ambassador for the World
Food Programme. I would that that by using her own unhappy experience as a reminder and channeling her energy into helping others has enable her to heal and move on easier from her sad past.
say it’s easier to forgive and forget than to bear a grudge. I beg to differ –
it takes a lot of conscious effort and a big heart to move on from someone who
has done you wrong. But once you are able to do that, that’s when you know for
sure that you’re the bigger person. So don’t let an unhappy past get you down, focus on
the now. Think about what’s important to you and what's more meaningful in life and give yourself a shot at happiness.
Director of WICKED, Karen Johnson
Mortimer tells us why nobody should miss this classic musical.
(All images credited to MBS, Singapore)
WICKED all about?
Wicked is a story about the early
life of the two well-known witches we all got to know through Frank L Baums,
The Wizard of Oz. It’s a tale that truly teaches us to never judge a book by
its cover – a journey of how their friendships develops through great highs and
lows, through trust and perceived betrayal and most importantly, through
forgiveness and acceptance.
Why do you think WICKED has
captivated the hearts of so many audiences worldwide?
I think many generations have read the book or seen the movie of The Wizard of
Oz at some point in their lives and it stayed with them. Gregory Maguire, in
his book Wicked, which the musical is based on, gives us a deeper insight into
the land of oz and all the characters which we have come to love.
first saw Wicked three months after it opened on Broadway, while on a holiday
with my husband. Believe it or not, I knew nothing about the show! However,
because people were raving about it, I bought a ticket. I could only get one so
I went on my own. I was gobsmacked – obviously as I work in theatre,, I have
seen and work on many shows but this one made me feel like I was seeing my
first show ever. I cried, I laughed and I was so moved by the spectacle and its
heart. There is no special difference in any area for Wicked compared to other
musicals – it simply has the right ingredients in every department.
How different will the staging of WICKED in
be different from the original Broadway production?
There will be no difference as we are
staying true to the concepts of the original creative team. The audience in Singapore can
expect all of the above and an exciting night with us!
the crew been preparing for the play?
Our team is a group of people who
collectively have years and years of experience working in theatre. Some have
already been to Singapore on
site visits during our Perth
run to prepare all departments for the set up of the show. The technical crew
are second to none and they are working to make Wicked look and sound its best
with their wonderful expertise.
What do you
think is the main message of WICKED?
There are many messages in Wicked.
But for me, as cliché as it can sound, the show really delivers through the
message of “never give up because your dreams can come true.” The show appeals
and reaches to all ages and all generations so everyone from 8 to 80 should see
runs from December 6, 2011 to February 26, 2012 at Marina Bay Sands Grand
Theatre. Tickets start from $55. For more information, log on to www.marinabaysands.com.
Chinese New Year used to be
simply an invitation to indulge in awesome food and collect as many red packets
as possible. But when I turned 16, the occasion bears a totally different
meaning. There was an added pressure with every trip to the relatives’ homes as
they would drop comments such as “Oh, you have become skinnier, never eat ah?”
and on some other years, it could be a “You seem to put on some weight!”
I knew there was no basis to
what they were saying since my weight never really fluctuated that extremely.
But somehow I took it for real and for a long while, nothing about my body
seemed right. I was always either too skinny or too chubby.
This, coupled with the fact
that some friends would constantly make fun of my height made me feel even more
down. Some of them would pass remarks such as “That dress is too long for you!”
They might not have thought much of it and might have seen it as a joke, but it
hurt at that point in time as I was already struggling to come to terms with my
image in the mirror.
Well, since young, I was
always the “smallest” kid in class. I would be placed right in front of the
teachers and I suppose no one really took notice of me since I used to be
really quiet. I guess my low self-esteem made me shy away from as many things
Thankfully, as I got older, I learnt
that it’s tiring having to constantly live up to people’s expectations. So what
if I’m not of a certain size or shape? Who set these standards anyway? And why
should any of these stop me from living life to the fullest?
No one should be able to get
you down except yourself.
Too fat, too short, too
skinny, too tall – these so-called standards don’t define who you are as an
individual. We are all special in our own rights and we should celebrate
our differences. The world would be extremely boring if everyone were to be the same!
I no longer have an issue
with how I look. I am happy because I am healthy and I don’t let silly
thoughts stop me from doing anything I set out to achieve. More importantly, I
know that all of my biggest achievements have nothing to do with how I look.
You see, when you are
constantly depressed about your own body, you stop yourself from being the best
that you can be. Obsessing over so-called flaws masks your ability to see the
good and unique aspect in yourself. As a result, you stop believing that you
can find success in whatever you want to do.
Starting from today, I hope you remember this: the sky’s
the limit if you stop focusing on the negative and look on the
bright side. So forget about being "perfect". Instead, be happy that there's no one like you.
Well, I’m pretty
sure this has been said over a million times whenever you try to plan a date
with your boyfriend. It’s always the same “Shall we meet for lunch, catch a
movie then maybe go for supper?” drill. During the honeymoon stage of your
relationship, you probably don’t really care what you’re doing since both of
you are busy getting lost in each other’s eyes.
couples who have been together since forever – and plan to be together forever
– it’s always good to inject some variety and excitement into your relationship
once in awhile.
I’m going to share two activities for you to try with your man over the weekend!
And don’t worry, they are not going to burst a huge hole in the pocket!
A blast from the past
to head to the movies theatre every single week, I know. But if you have a
chance to experience a drive-in movie, just like the kind of dates mum and dad
use to go on, why not? In Singapore,
www.moviemob.sg, organises free outdoor
movies screenings. If you drive, all you have to do is grab some popcorns, find
a parking lot and enjoy the movie under the moonlight. And even if you don’t
have a car, just grab a picnic mat and a portable radio! Just imagine how
romantic it would be to have your own little space, being able to bring any
kinds of food you want, and basking under the moonlight over a good movie…
if you can’t even fry a proper egg? You can still go for a cooking class
together and have fun bonding over good food and wine. I have been dying to
sign up for cooking classes ever since I heard how much fun it is. And the good
thing about such classes is that there’re no planning required on your side, so
it’s totally fuss free. All you have to do is pick a class that you’re keen in
(be it cupcakes decoration, cake baking or even learning how to make fish and
chips or Cajun chicken), register for it and turn up on the day itself.
about it, you get to pick up cooking skills, have fun and you don’t even have to clean
up the kitchen after that! I’m thinking of signing up for the “Cooking with
alcohol” class. Just looking at the menu is enough to make me drool! Check out
the classes at www.cookyn-with-mervyn.com, they have different themes/classes every month so you can be sure to find something you both like.
Prices start from about $45/pax.
If you need
more ideas on what to do this month, why not flip to page 194 of the September
issue of CLEO to check out the event calendar? I’m sure both you and your
boyfriend will be able to find something up your alley.
here’s the thing, a lot of couples tend to stop being creative and romantic after they have
been together for a period of time. But I believe that one should never get too
comfortable in a relationship – always make it a point to inject variety and
fun. All it takes is a little effort to keep the flame alive. So do you know of
any interesting activities to do on our island? Don’t forget to share with me!
myself lucky – I work in an environment where it’s somewhat 90% female and 10%
male so I have never felt this gender inequality. But most women aren’t as fortunate because some industries are known to be
traditionally male-dominated. Take our story It’s (not) a man’s world (page
100) and the female prison wardens in Working behind bars (page 114) in the
September issue for instance, the women we spoke to might be successful and
established in their own career now, but they didn’t had it easy when they
first started out.
One of them
even shared of how her subordinates didn't respect her all all and “they would doubt (her) capabilities simply
because (she's) a woman”. This really struck me hard because of how unfair and
difficult it can be for some of us.
here’s the thing, gender equality isn’t something that’s going to happen
overnight just because we demand for it. And it isn’t something that we can
achieve simply on our own. But what we can do is to actively close the gap by
proving our worth and earning the respect of the men in the workplace.
So while I
might not be working in a male-dominated industry right now, here’s what I have
learnt back in university when I had to lead to group of men.
1. Be brave enough to make unpopular
been said to be wishy-washy and unable to make up our minds – don’t let this
happen in the workplace. The last thing you want is to doubt your own judgement
and have them doubting your capabilities too.
So don’t be
afraid to make decisions if you have assessed the situation and believe that it’s
the best possible option available. Let the outcome speak for itself. A good
leader is someone who dares to make the right decision even when everyone else
lacks the foresight to.
2. Keep your emotions at bay
We have been told that we are emotional beings and men are objective-driven. This doesn't have to be true in the workplace. The stress
might be getting to you or you might be feeling upset after a bad day at work,
but never ever let your emotions get the better of you at the workplace. The
last thing you want is to let the men in your workplace see you crying or
crumbling under pressure – you lose credibility and you end up portraying
yourself as a weak damsel in distress. Keep your emotions in check and leave
all the tears and frustrations at home. Looking like you have it under control
all the time makes it easy to gain the respect and trust of the boys.
separate note, a friend was asking me if she should be worried about getting
together with a guy who’s earning lesser than her and is at a lower work
position than her. She’s been in a
dilemma for quite a well because she was afraid that this would pose a problem
should they get into a relationship.
concerns are valid but I don’t think she should deny herself of a potentially
great relationship simply because she’s earning more. If a guy let his ego get
in the way and can’t handle the fact that you’re more capable than him, he’s
probably not so much of a catch either. Go for someone who celebrates your achievement
and instead of being daunted, find someone who would see your success as a
motivation to improve himself.
So, have you ever encountered unfair gender treatment at work? Share your
experience with me by leaving a comment!
I woke up this morning with
a text message from my best friend saying,
“Oh man, I hate my job. I’m doing the same old
routine every single day and I don’t get any satisfaction from it. I can’t wait
for the weekends.”
Well, I’m not sure how many
of you out there feels the same, but I really feel for her.
Back in my university days,
I used to take on part time jobs which I didn’t like just for the sake of extra
pocket money. It was a chore having to pull myself out from bed every morning
and counting down to the end of work.
But it was also from these
experiences that I realise how important it is to be passionate about what
you’re doing instead of just working for the sake of it. So one morning, I woke
up and decided that if I was going to be working for the rest of my life, I
want to make sure that it’s in a job I love. And that was when I decided that I
wanted to intern with CLEO because I wanted to know if the magazine industry’s
right for me.
It turned out to be one of the best decisions I have made so far.
I’ll admit it though – being
an intern wasn’t the easiest and most glamorous job around. On some days, I
would be running mundane errands the entire day, carrying bags of stuff from
place to place or calling people up to get information.
But there were also days
where I get to attend interesting events, go for food tastings and help out at
photoshoots! However, what I really loved most about my interning days was how
I got the chance to learn more about the magazine industry by observing what
the CLEO girls had to do everyday and also taking the chance to hone my writing
by taking in pointers from the writers themselves!
So of course I was elated
when I was offered the position of Editorial Assistant when my internship
ended! I took it up without hesitation and I never looked back.
Everyday at CLEO is different – I love the vibrant and dynamic working
environment, I love the fun and crazy colleagues that I work with, I love
meeting new people and working on interesting stories every month, not
forgetting the numerous perks such as free invites to awesome events and all
the latest beauty products!
Sure, there are times when I
feel that I could never meet any deadlines and my list of to-do things is never
ending, but at the end of the day, I know my passion can help me overcome any
Life is too short to be wasted on doing things you don’t love. For me, I know I
wouldn’t trade working in CLEO for anything else.
P.S: If you think you have what
it takes to be an intern at CLEO, drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with your
I hate to say this, but with the increasing number of
foreigners coming to live and work in Singapore, sometimes it really seem
easier to date an expat than a Singaporean. And seems like most people agree
with me! Take a look at this survey conducted by the Association of Dating
Agencies and Matchmakers (Singapore):
As many as seven in ten Singaporeans are open to dating a foreigner. This
figure is a 20% increase compared to last year, and I believe it’s largely due
to the increase number of expats, too.
I fall into the remaining three out of ten as I don’t think I will ever date an
Reason #1: I will not be their
it – expats gave up their family, friends, pets (if any) and in short, their
life in an environment they are so familiar with to live in another country just
so to build their career. Their priority would be to establish their career.
This is why I suspect a serious relationship is hardly on the back of their
mind. Sadly, this means that even if you were to be dating an expat, you would
probably take a backseat when it comes to his job. That would probably
translate to lesser time spent together. And, which girl wouldn’t want more
time with their man? But of course, please do understand that I’m making a very
Reason #2: There’s a lack of
they have left behind their life when they chose to work in another country.
Here in Singapore,
probably no one knew who they were before. It’s so easy to assume a whole new
identity by leaving your past behind entirely. For me, I would not feel secure
when I don’t know what his past was really
like, the kind of place he lived in and how his friends are like. The sense of
connection isn’t as strong as compared to dating a Singaporean man since I grew
up in pretty much similar environment. Also, coupled with the fact that this
isn’t his home and it’s probably only a transition phase for him. Would he be
willing to stay here for good to build a relationship with you? This is
probably a major issue that will surface at one point of your relationship. I’m
not saying that he won’t, Matthew, one of the expat we interviewed, got a PR
just to marry the girl of his dreams! As Matthew’s relationship with his wife demonstrates,
the good thing about dating an expat would be the wealth of endless topic that
you two would exchange, considering that he probably came from a country with a
very different culture compared to Singapore. His story was one of the
most heartwarming love story I know. (Flip to page 102 of the August issue of
CLEO now to know about the great things he has to say about Singaporean women!)
Having said that, at the end of the day, I do believe strongly
that being in a relationship has nothing to do with the race, age or the
country he came from. It’s about how well you can connect with him and how much
you enjoy his company. You know your man’s a keeper if you’re still very much
in love with him even when you’ve already known him inside out. Dating an expat
would definitely have its own unique sets of challenges, but so does every
other relationship. But surely it can all be worked out if he’s really your Mr